When I’ve posted my first video I knew I was ready. When almost half of the day passed and nobody reacted, I also knew I was terrified. “What if they don’t like it?,” or worse: “What if they really hate it?”
All throughout our lives we learn what to do or say to earn approval from others. Even if we don’t want to admit it, we really care what others think. Because of this, our choices are dependant on others and are not completely our own. This state is what I call our safe place.
When we are in our safe place, we feel accepted. This feeling of belonging is not as empowering, but it seems far better than the dangerous alternative. What would others think if we would just do what we want, without looking for their approval? Would we do something crazy or unacceptable? This seems scary indeed.
Even though we don’t take this scary alternative, we may recognize that we don’t feel that safe even when we decide to stay in our safe place. The fear seems to follow us everywhere we go and everything we do has the potential of disaster. This is because we unconsciously think: What if they realize I’m not good enough? What if this event makes them turn against me?
If we become brave enough to leave our safe place, we may find ourselves in the wild woods. In this place, we start making decisions that are completely our own, without thinking how these actions may be taken by others. We just align with our life purpose and act from our hearts.
Even when we start doing what we really want, we may realize that we still care about what others think. And if we don’t get good feedback and feel acknowledged for what we do, we may be tempted to go back to our safe place.
The key to manifest and live our ideal lives is to learn how to feel good about who we are and what we do, and do that for longer periods of time. This is especially true for a time when no one seems to acknowledge us. The longer we can stay in our feel good place, the more Law of Attraction can work in our lives.
By continuing to post my videos and staying in my feel good place, people started to respond. Few days of doing this, one person decided to do her own video in response. If I felt discouraged after posting the first one, I wouldn’t be able to see how supported I really am.
This is not to say that there won’t be times when no one will respond. That’s okay too. This is our contrasting event, and as always it is asking us to take the inside approach and decide who we really want to be. Is this really what we want? Is this the best path for us?
In extreme case when no one acknowledges us for longer period of time, we should also approach from within. This outside event is the reflection in our mirror, and thus very important. It tells us that our inside problem has been manifested on the outside, so that we can see it more clearly and thus solve it more quickly by approaching from within.
Takeaway from this post: Expand your time of feeling good, especially in times when you expect the acknowledgement from others. Even when we take outside action and feel ready for our new lives to begin, it takes time before our inner change is reflected on the outside.
Having your own takeaway? Let me know in the comments below!
P.S Words in bold are the key words from my book Lessons from Snow White, a step-by-step guide to manifesting your ideal life))